Maine & NH Wedding Photographer | Your People Are the MVP's, Choose Them Wisely (This Is Not the Day for Drama)

Let’s get one thing straight:
The people you keep closest to you on your wedding day matter. A lot.

This isn’t about numbers. Or traditions. Or feeling obligated because “we’ve known each other forever.” This is about who you want next to you when your nerves kick in and the day starts moving fast.

Your wedding morning is not the time for:

• Negative energy

• Old grudges

• People who make everything about themselves

• Or that one person who somehow turns every situation into chaos

You can still invite them. Be polite. Be classy.
Just… don’t put them right by your side.

The people getting ready with you should be your calm. Your hype crew. The ones who know when to crack a joke and when to shut up and hand you a tissue.

These are the humans who:

• Fix the broken zipper without panicking

• Hold your dress while you pee (true friendship)

• Grab you water and hors d’oeuvres when you forget to eat

• Tell you you look incredible when your brain is spiraling

They set the tone for your entire day.

I’ve photographed enough weddings to know this for a fact: when couples surround themselves with the right people, everything feels easier. The energy is lighter. The laughs are louder. The emotions are real in the best way.

And it shows in the photos.

Your wedding party or your chosen people, however you want to do it, should lift you up, not drain you. They should make the day feel fun, not stressful. Safe, not performative.

So choose the friends who show up.
Choose the ones who support your relationship.
Choose the ones who would drop everything to help you breathe for a second.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not about matching outfits or standing at the end of an aisle.

It’s about having the right people right there when you need them most.

And trust me—those are the people you’ll remember forever.