Maine & NH Wedding Photographer |Unfiltered Thoughts from a Wedding Photographer (After a Long Season): Stop Trying to Make Your Day Perfect

Alright, here’s the deal — no wedding day is perfect. Not a single one. I’ve seen champagne bottles explode on dresses, grooms forget the rings, and the mother of the bride’s dress rip while getting zipped up. You know what? Every one of those couples still ended up married and that’s kind of the whole point, right?

Everyone’s so wrapped up in this idea of having a “Pinterest-perfect” wedding that they forget the best parts are usually the unplanned ones. The crooked boutonniere. The flower girl that full-on refuses to walk down the aisle. The wind that decides your veil deserves its own solo performance. That’s the real stuff — the stuff that makes your day yours.

So here’s my hot take: don’t aim for “perfect,” aim for you. Follow your gut on what feels right for your day. You want tacos instead of a sit-down dinner? Do it. Wanna wear combat boots with your dress? Hell yes. Your wedding doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be incredible.

And when the day finally comes, stop worrying about what your reception will look like four hours from now. It’ll look like people drinking and dancing…. you’re good. What matters most is that you’re there for it.

Take a deep breath during your portraits. That’s not just “photo time.” That’s the moment you finally get to slow down and be like, “Whoa, we actually did this thing.” Those are the moments you’ll want photos of — not your napkin folds or the exact angle of your centerpiece.

So yeah, manage those expectations, embrace the chaos, and let the day unfold however it wants to. I promise you — it’ll still be awesome, and you’ll have the photos to prove it.