Maine & NH Wedding Photographer | A Kid-Free Wedding. No Exceptions. And Zero Regrets.

Let’s get this out of the way first: I love kids.
I really do.

But loving kids and wanting them at your wedding are two very different things.

When my husband and I got married, we invited 15 people. That’s it. And the vibe? Way more friend dinner party than family reunion with juice boxes. We knew exactly what we wanted: small, simple, intimate, and calm. And that meant no kids. No exceptions. No guilt spiral.

We just… aren’t those people. And that’s okay.

Somewhere along the way, couples were made to feel like a kid-free wedding is offensive or dramatic or “mean.” It’s none of those things. It’s a preference. A boundary. A vibe check.

For us, having a kid-free wedding:

• Kept the volume down

• Kept the drama down

• Kept the focus on actually connecting with the people we invited

It allowed conversations to flow, dinner to feel relaxed, and the entire day to feel intentional instead of overstimulating. No crying during vows. No chasing toddlers. No parents half-present because they’re on snack duty.

And listen—parents deserve a night off too. More often than not, a kid-free wedding is a gift. You get to show up, dress up, stay present, and enjoy adult conversation without constantly scanning for danger.

Other totally valid reasons couples choose kid-free weddings:

• Smaller budget (kids still cost money, shocker)

• Limited space (not every venue is kid-friendly or safe)

• Emotional tone (quiet ceremonies, intimate vows, slow moments)

• Logistics (late nights, alcohol, uneven terrain, candles, cliffs… you get it)

• Mental bandwidth (you already have enough to think about)

Choosing a kid-free wedding doesn’t mean you hate children. It means you’re being honest about the experience you want to create.

And if someone says, “Well then I can’t come,” that’s unfortunate—but it doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It just means your wedding isn’t a one-size-fits-all event. It was never supposed to be.

If a kid-free wedding feels right to you, trust that. You don’t need to justify it. You don’t need exceptions. You don’t need to water it down to make other people comfortable.

Your wedding doesn’t have to be a family obligation.
It can be a reflection of how you actually live and love.

Quiet. Intentional. Low-chaos. High connection.

That’s the vibe. And it’s a damn good one.