Maine & NH Wedding Photographer | Getting Ready Together Is the Ultimate Power Move

Let’s start with the part people love to whisper about like it’s risky behavior:
My husband and I got ready together on our wedding day.

Gasp. Clutch pearls. Panic.

We’re still married. We had no bad luck. Zero regrets. Would absolutely do it again.

While everyone else was doing the traditional split-up, frantic-room, twelve-people-talking-at-once thing, we chose calm. We chose familiarity. We chose our person.

And honestly? It took so much stress out of the day.

Instead of feeling rushed, overstimulated, or pulled in ten directions, we were grounded. We laughed. We helped each other. There was no performance, no buildup anxiety, no “don’t look yet!” nonsense. Just us, getting ready for a big day together—like we do life.

And here’s a very real, very practical bonus:
He had better eyesight than my mother.

True story. My mom tried to button me into my dress and physically could not see the buttons. My husband stepped in, calm as ever, and handled it like a champ. No panic. No pressure. No dramatic moment. Just quiet competence.

This is exactly why I love this trend.

More and more couples are choosing to get ready together because:

• It keeps nerves down

• It eliminates the “where are they?” anxiety

• It creates a shared memory instead of two separate, chaotic ones

• It sets the tone for the day: we’re a team

For anxious couples, introverts, or anyone who doesn’t thrive in high-energy rooms, this is a game changer. You don’t need hype. You need grounding. And who better to do that with than the person you’re about to marry?

There’s also something incredibly intimate about it. Not performative. Not staged. Just real. Helping with outfits. Adjusting details. Sharing quiet moments before the world shows up.

Tradition says you’re supposed to spend the morning apart.
But tradition doesn’t know your nervous system.

If getting ready together feels right to you, trust that. It doesn’t take away from the moment—it enhances it. It strips away unnecessary stress and replaces it with connection.

Your wedding morning doesn’t need chaos to feel special.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is start the day exactly how you plan to live your marriage.

Together. Calm. On the same team.