Maine & NH Wedding Photographer // Confession Time: We Got Ready Together on Our Wedding Day and (Spoiler Alert) It Was Awesome

Alright, I’ve got a little wedding confession to make… and it might ruffle some old-school feathers.

My husband and I?

Yeah—we got ready together. In the same room. On our wedding day.

Cue the gasps from traditionalists everywhere.

But hear me out.

This wasn’t some big rebellious act. It just made sense. It simplified everything. We weren’t stressed, we helped each other and the idea of being separated all morning just didn’t feel right. So we threw out the rulebook and did things our way.

And honestly? I wouldn’t change a thing.

He was my calm that morning.

He helped button up my dress when my mom and mother-in-law were fumbling with nerves (and honestly, too many hands were stressing me out).

He reminded me to eat. He handed me water. He kept everything grounded.

It didn’t take away from the “wow” of the day. He still looked at me like I hung the moon when I walked down that aisle. But instead of spending the morning apart and spiraling with nerves, we spent it together. Supporting each other. Laughing. Reminding ourselves why we were doing this in the first place.

And here we are, all these years later—married since 2009 and still going strong.

So if you’re planning your wedding and wondering whether you have to stick with all the traditions—guess what? You don’t.

Do what feels right for you.

Whether that’s a private first look, separate rooms, or getting ready side-by-side like it’s just another normal, beautiful day you’re sharing with your person.

Your wedding is yours. And sometimes, breaking the “rules” makes it even more meaningful.